It's weird being an adult and your co-workers are like...your friends but not your FRIENDS??? You know? Like where do adults make actual friends anyway

@btrflyknife It's hecking hard. All I've gotten from my co-workers is a vague, "We should got out for drinks after work." It's a big bummer.

@RC right!! Same here. Like...what if.....we all became actual friends and supported each other instead of just drinking.....what a novel idea....

@btrflyknife If I've learned anything recently is everyone is lonely together. I had a party with my neighbors a few weeks back and found out everyone has been having trouble making friends, yet we haven't hung out together since. We all have similar interests too.

I think I just have to start sucking it up and be the party organizer, but it's so much work!

@RC right I totally get that!! It's a lot of work and scary sometimes to put yourself out there when everyone else isn't either 😬 😭 at least we can be new cool internet friends but darn those IRL friends are hard to find and keep 😔

@btrflyknife I found that treating the baristas at Starbucks like human beings and becoming a regular gets you about halfway there. Then if you're lucky, one of them has a band or a comedy show and will invite you and that's pretty much when it's safe to friend them on FB or Masto or Twitter and stuff.

@btrflyknife I say this as a dude with not a lot of friends but at least a few high-quality ones.

@dave very true!!! I have to go to other places other than just work and home and try to chat with those around me! It's hard to remember that in the moment when you're just lookin for your latte 😅

@btrflyknife Outside of the wage slave system. My coworkers present themselves as friends too, but if you step out of line they will report you to the managers to have you replaced. Some "friends" huh?

@Electronic_Bunny woofta yea that's some toxic junk, I'm sorry friend you deserve better than that 😥

@btrflyknife Its alright, like you said, its good to have real friends outside of that environment.

Work makes it so people see each other more like rivals (at least especially in a place like mine with constant high turnover), so even if your "friendly" you might get betrayed.

Its understandable why as well, if your poor and its your income (your food, bed, family's well being) is at risk, you might betray your coworkers to better secure your position.

@particle_p @btrflyknife I just walk up to strangers and hold out my arms to them and yell "FWEND!?!"

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